The consensus among every relationship expert is that the assumption should never be that you're dating exclusively, but instead, that you're dating non-exclusively until you have a conversation about the subject.Read on to find out more details on how to find out if you're dating exclusively and how to broach the subject with a new guy.It takes the pressure off the guy and gives him to time to think about what you said." To get more info on the pertinent questions, Lady LUX talked to several relationship experts to ask their advice. Walfish: You should always assume that you are dating a man non-exclusively. LL: If it is safe to make the assumption you’re exclusive, what are the signs?Participants included Astroglide's resident sexologist, Jess O' Reilly, a relationship counselor and a best-selling author with a Ph D in sex education; Dr. O’Reilly: There may be signs that your new love interest sees your relationship as exclusive (e.g.This happens to a lot of people, surprisingly, and they end up in an exclusive relationship with someone they thought they were just casually dating.When you’re thrust into the dating world, end up going on dates with a number of different people, and slowly find yourself dating the same person over and over, while also accepting fewer and fewer other dates, you’ve basically put yourself into a relationship.Far too many women make the mistake of assuming that a man is dating them exclusively after just a few dates, or after they have sex for the first time.But this is often a false assumption, and heartache can easily ensue.
If you can check these things off your list, odds are you're exclusive (or headed down that path),” Greenberg said.O’Reilly: I don’t think you can ever assume that you’re dating exclusively. O’Reilly: Exclusivity doesn’t need to be a touchy subject.If you’re looking for an exclusive relationship, it’s perfectly okay to indicate this preference from the onset.So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If he or she shakes at the thought of labels and won’t define your relationship as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” it’s a red sign that your relationship just hasn’t become exclusive yet and they might be keeping other options open. Why bother looking for someone else when you’re clearly off the market and you’ve won the prize? If someone wants to make the relationship exclusive, they won’t be logging on while you’re asleep to stare at emails and photos of others. When someone wants to date others, they’ll leave one of the weekend nights available.While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and only, even before becoming Facebook official. When someone is really into you and has made you their steady squeeze, they won’t be hiding you and will be proud to show you off. When your significant other stops introducing you as just a friend and it’s replaced with BF or GF publicly, chances are you’re the one-and-only. When you’re excited about being together every weekend, you should know that you’re the one-and-only. You’ve whispered those three special words of “I love you” to each other. If he’s playing the field, all the ladies will know it’s his birthday and will want to be by his side. Not every day is filled with hearts, bells, and whistles. From a toothbrush to an extra set of panties and makeup, when your sweetie carves out a place in his closet or bathroom for you and vice versa, you’ll know it’s serious.
Tell him you want to be assured of mutual exclusivity before you give yourself sexually to him. If he cares for you he'll stick around either by waiting or promising exclusivity. O’Reilly: Don’t wait until you’ve developed a strong emotional attachment to confirm that your partner is heading in the same direction. Castaldo: I suggest a very clean and honest conversation.